Tbilisi Collective

Friend B

30 years old

Brunet, brown eyes

Born to lay by the pool all day, forced to hustle

Friend B is casually dating an older guy with whom she feels good. However, he is not looking for anything serious while she might have started feeling attached. So, once she has realized that the dangerous line between “I do not give a fuck” and “I want him to hug me all the time” has been crossed, she started dating other people. She is exhausted and single.

Friend C

29 years old

Brunet, blue eyes

Real man in the family

Friend C has just returned to the dating apps as it has been too long since she had sex and we are all humans, you know. She has been dating actively for a long time, but she lives in a country where girls are hunting for average boys and she ain’t that girl who hunts for anyone. She is horny and single.

Myself

29 years old

Brunet, brown eyes

Born for slow life, forced to tolerate slow men

As you might have already known, I was actively dating for the past 3 years. However, since last year, I barely used dating apps due to the monochromaticity of the dates I have been forced to endure. I am bored and single.

The aim of all of us is to have a nice and healthy relationship. We are good-looking, successful, fun, intelligent, independent, interesting, drama-free, and stylish women. And at the end of the day, we are all bored, tired, frustrated, disappointed, sexless, and sometimes lonely due to the tragic dating scene worldwide. So, what is the problem? If in our early twenties, our drama evolved around boys not liking us back, now the issue is that we do not like anyone back who is worth investing time, energy, and finances in. I have not met a guy in the past year and a half, that I would be into longer than a month. And I know that few of my above-mentioned girlfriends face the same issue. Why? Are we looking in wrong places? Are we choosing to date wrong guys? Have we evolved too fast and now majority of guys seem boring to us? Or have we become so cynical that we have already subconsciously accepted the idea that there is no one good enough for us, so every boy now gives us an instant ick?

It is interesting because every time we meet up, we start sharing books we read, movies we watched, places we visited, new nuances we discovered about ourselves, and eventually we somehow always end up talking about dating. And as sad as it sounds, this is the topic that we are most hyped to talk about because this is the issue that keeps being unresolved for years now.

I am not saying that I am so perfect that it is a honey-combed experience to have a relationship with me. However, I have to say, as arrogant as it sounds, that I have been pursued by quite a few average men and despite of lowering the bar to the point that it physically cannot go lower anymore, I am still bored and single. I keep repeating the word “bored” because this is how I truly feel. And I think it is my girlfriends’ fault. Each of them has spoiled me with vulnerable conversations, emotionally open relationships, intelligent and stimulating discussions, and constructive criticism. I might be biased but all of them are self-aware, loving, affectionate, caring, funny, inspiring, and strong individuals. So, even though I say the bar is low, at the end of the day, I still expect from the guy the same or more of everything I receive nearly daily from my girlfriends. I am a hardcore believer that there is at least three times more cooler women out there than men, which makes the dating game a real hunt in the wilderness. And I am too lazy to hunt, because at the end of the day, most of the man on dating apps nowadays search for “crumb of vaginas,” as my favorite meme says.

So, if you have tips on where to find interesting and cute guys who can sustain a family, let me know please. And no, I am not going to hang out alone at the bar of a fancy hotel.